Has anyone tried a dating app? It’s okay if you have! In fact, if you haven’t, it’s probably because you’re in a relationship and in that case, hats off to you! According to Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari, it’s such a common thing now that you’re almost obsolete if you don’t partake in the swiping culture. But I’ve been thinking a lot about how finding a job is no different than finding a partner.
When you’re scrolling through dating profiles, what do you think of? Are we a good fit? Will we have fun together? How will this person fit into my lifestyle? Do we have the same fundamental values? Can I see myself looking at this face every day without wanting to run and hide? I mean, this is definitely the case for dating apps, but I think it’s also applicable to finding the right fit for a job!
When determining whether to swipe left or right on your next position, here are some things that may be useful to consider!
1. Consider a long-term commitment. Yes, some people date for the summer of for “cuffing season” alone, but chances are, you’re planning to spend at least a couple of years in a job. That said, you’ll want to really think about how long of a commitment you can make to the opportunity. It doesn’t have to be forever, but you should think about a 2 year plan. Is there opportunity to grow? Do you align with the company’s values and missions? If you can’t answer yes to these questions, you should swipe left.
2. Does this option stimulate you? Do you feel excited to about the job opportunity?! Does it make you want to get out of bed and contribute daily (okay, we all know there are days that we’d rather flip tables, but 80% of the time, are you stimulated?!) Does the job light a fire within you or is it something that just holds you over until you find that next exciting thing? If you’re not stimulated…in a job or a relationship, it’s time to swipe left!
3. Consider the cling-factor. Okay, so no one likes a clingy man, but a clingy boss is also not always idea. When interviewing, be sure to ask your potential boss about their leadership style. Are they a micro-manager? Do they have “breath down you neck” tendencies? Does that work for you or make you want to run for the hills? Be sure to assess whether or not you’re a good fit for your potential manager’s leadership style as you determine whether to swipe left or to swipe right.
4. Will this relationship make you better? Relationships should make you better overall….and jobs should too. Will you have an opportunity to grow? Does the company have learning opportunities or ways for you to improve your skills so that you can either advance in the company or to propel you into a role at another one? As with every relationship, it’s give and take, but before you swipe right, be sure to understand what your potential employer brings to the table (in addition to funds) that will make you better off
5. Consider past relationship history. It’s common knowledge not to talk about ex’s on a first date, but you should have an understanding of why the role you are interviewing for has opened up. If this company has dated your friends, you have to figure out why it did not work out! Did the company get dumped by an employee who just didn’t make the cut, or did the company get dumped because they didn’t treat their employees well? This is a huge, and very important differentiator and you need to know this in order to make your decision. Knowing why it didn’t work out with the person who’s seat you are trying to fill will tell you if the company promotes from within, if its culture is toxic, and even if your potential boss talks trash about its past employees (major red flag, by the way!).
The moral of the story is this: dating can suck, and finding the right job for you can suck too (sorry, it's true!) But, with these simple tips you make be able to prevent getting catfished or blindsided once you do decide to swipe right!
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